Finished, Finito, Over and Done!

I finished the book “Calling in The One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas. Do I feel different?….. Yes, a resounding YES!

I feel like I’ve reached a whole new level of consciousness. I feel like just by discovering some of my fears and issues that I didn’t even know were affecting me, I’ve dealt with them. The weight has been lifted. Of course, I’ll be tested along the way and I need to remain conscious of those fears and choose a better course of action than my previous patterns but my fears have been confronted and named.

I off loaded so much baggage that I didn’t even realize I’d been carting around. I have begun to make some real progress healing my anxiety issues from the inside out, and look forward to opportunities to challenge that.

I have worked through the devastating near miss that was The Ambassador. I have allowed loss, in letting him drift away and not chasing him… and it’s getting dramatically easier each and every day. I was aching and crushed, but it’s only a sign that I’m getting closer to my extraordinary love. I now have a sense of calm and reassurance that in allowing that loss, I am simply making room for the won that won’t be a miss.

I learned we must first know ourselves (who you are and what you want), and fully accept ourselves before we can share all that with another.

I have committed myself to loving myself and everyone God puts in my path. I will be actively and passionately engaged in my life, and pursuing my purpose. I am practicing having faith and surrendering to the ebb and flow of life. I am practicing “living from center”, not being reactionary and knocked around by the elements in the world.

I am putting my house in order making room for my beloved’s arrival.

I have also made some promises to myself. I promise to only date men who at least appear to be funny, spiritual, kind, enthusiastic and appreciate— and to cultivate those qualities in myself.

This book was such a joy, and a challenge. The postscript being one of the most priceless parts of the book and I’d like to share some tid-bits from it with you.

Transformation is never an easy path.

(Maybe it’s like cleaning a wound. In putting hydrogen peroxide on a fresh scrape, my Mom used to tell me — that’s how you can tell it’s working, because it hurts)

“The course of true love never did run smooth.” -Shakespeare

Diminishing ourselves by hiding out greatness has never really helped anyone.

(I did this with The Ambassador– toned down my marvelous personality, passion and enthusiasm so as not to scare him away. Great way to feel disconnected from yourself and low.)

While it is often sad to allow people to leave our lives when they choose to, it seems to be a part of life that we must simply accept. Allowing loss.

Love exists to the extent that you give it away. Love will always require of us more than we initially intended to give…

(Kind of like this book. Ha! Love will accept nothing less than everything we are and everything we have to give.)

Happy hunting for your own bliss, dear blogger friends.  Wishing you ultimate love and acceptance of yourself first and foremost, then from a worthy partner.

Advertisements
Published in: on May 1, 2012 at 9:00 am  Comments (14)  
Tags: , , ,

The URI to TrackBack this entry is: https://search4asoulmate.wordpress.com/2012/05/01/finished-finito-over-and-done/trackback/

RSS feed for comments on this post.

14 CommentsLeave a comment

  1. Good for you! It helped me to make a list of all the qualities I wanted in a mate. Just a huge wishlist, becasue while I was at it I might as well dream big, but then when it came down to it, there were really only a few non negotiable requirements he had to have. I am happy that the book had suh a profound affect on you.

    • Yes I have made the list before and it was helpful.. So much more in this book too. I can’t wait for my guy to arrive. I’m so excited!

  2. That’s it, I MUST finish this book now. I got distracted. You just inspired me to complete it. Thank youu…..

    Pink.

    • It was kinda tough to stick with it but I say go go go, Pink!

      • Awww.. HAHA.. ironically, I was book marked for Allowing Loss, which I realize I still struggle to let go of, my crushes, as I have found them to be so supportive. But then I realize that by holding onto him, I’m not making room for new possibilities. I’m so scared to let him go. But maybe by allowing the loss of anything romantic, I can accept the friendship he presents instead, and look to move forward with that kind of support instead. I realize this isn’t fully letting go. For me, it’s about the flow. Some people, it’s so easy to cut them away. For some though, it’s like they’re always there, in the background, ready to catch me if I fall. Sigh. I’m a chump.

        Pink.

      • love wht you wrote here. Beautiful description. I’m a chump for love too & a committed one at that! Lol… Always will be.

      • Thanks to you, I’ve digested five chapters, and now getting through it, I understand that peace you’ve been describing. Way to go! What a marathon…. 😀

        Pink.

  3. I’m currently working through “Codependent no More” and it’s been a huge eye-opener. I think you’ve convinced me to try this one next, even though I do have a dude in my life I think it will be super helpful! So proud of all the work you’ve done and I think great things are on the horizon for you.

    • I read that one probably a decade ago. I’m sure it’s still on my shelf. I might just tke another look at it & YES big things are on the horizon for me! Thank you. & you could totally do this book even with a man. I can’t see how it could do anything but makes things better, sweeter & more savory 🙂

      • Co-dependent No More? I think I need that! Its funny how much I get from your blogs, I mean, I have been married forever, but it seems I am always on the journey to making that marriage into the partnership I dream of… And I think the biggest step has to be to stop toning down my own marvelous personality! 🙂 Thanks for a great post Cadence!

      • I think creating a partnership is a constant process with anyone, especially your spouse– and what is wrong with us? Why on earth would we want to tone down marvelous?! Lol

  4. a good book is useful…

  5. I’m going to have to find this book. I’m curious!!


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: