Never Let Her Wonder

He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.”

Dear Men of the world,

Just a friendly reminder from you’re saucy blogosphere soul mate seeker. When you find a woman that you know has been placed in your life for a reason… One that you know is incredible and an acception to every rule… When you find a woman who will always care about you, no matter what the circumstance… NEVER but never let her wonder how you feel about her.

Heed the warning of every song that preaches “tell her about it”… Don’t shine it on. If you want this woman in your life, make SURE she knows it. Not only is it the right and healthy thing to do but it’ll keep your woman beside you.

Even the most confident, career minded, sucessful and independant woman longs to be swept away by your words. Don’t let her down. Tell her every chance you get.

Let her know you cherish her, she’s goreous, and mysterious… Let her see that you know her to be passionate, hard working and maybe even carrying around a heart two sizes too big. If she’s loyal to a fault… Tell her you so much appreciate that she always has your back.

Even if your feelings are just in the begining stages of being excited and curious, let her know it. Tell her you’re glad you met her, and your life is better with her in it.

(warning: I do NOT mean overwhelm her inappropriately early with visions of the future, or smother her with so much attention that it feels like a noose)

If she’s wondering how you feel, there will always be someone (possibly multiple someones) telling her to give up– that she’s wasting her time– and trying to take your place.

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  1. I admire that you can accept that you’re needs aren’t being met and move on to someone who will meet them. I think I would be so scared that I was missing out on him, that my needs would go unmet… You go girl for letting your fire shine through!

    • Blondie, you say the greatest things. I really love your feedback! I think you may have the ability to see the sunlight in almost any situation.

  2. I always say *forget the clouds, just take the silver linings! (Of course there’s another f-word that fits in that sentence…)

    • Looove that mantra.. I’ll say it–

      FUCK the clouds! Just take the silver linings!

  3. Noted…thanks for the insight… 😉

  4. This needs to be posted everywhere so all men (and some women) can read it. If you care about someone, you shouldn’t make them wonder how you feel and you should enjoy time with them. That simple. You have made the right decision for yourself and I know you will find your Mr. Right!

  5. “Even the most confident, career minded, sucessful and independant woman longs to be swept away by your words”

    AMEN!

    And also yes yes yes re timing being critical – don’t scare us with happily ever after when it isn’t appropriate but being told “I’m glad I met you”, that is a lovely feeling 🙂

  6. …And on the other side, “Never Let Him Doubt”…

    • I suppose men need this too… But jeez, some of them are soooo skittish!

  7. Can you send this to the men I date? No… seriously! I hate trying to figure guys out.

    • I know you’ve been reading & you finally commented– yeah!! Ya, I hate reading minds too.. More than once I’ve just spat out.. “Ok, what’s going on here?!” lol

      I love Chris Rocks line about what women need to live… Food, water, and compliments- and the occasional pair of shoes!

  8. “Even if your feelings are just in the begining stages of being excited and curious, let her know it. Tell her you’re glad you met her, and your life is better with her in it.

    (warning: I do NOT mean overwhelm her inappropriately early with visions of the future, or smother her with so much attention that it feels like a noose)”

    I hate to be the wet blanket here, but men have learned by example time and time again that the line between these two things is incredibly close and sometimes overlapping. A guy expressing his passion and “feelings” early on carries a gigantic risk she’ll just send him into the “creepy clinger” or “nice guy” categoiries and disappear.

    If women rewarded men for being enthusiastic and expressing their “feelings” to women, men would be doing it in droves.

    • You make an excellent point, Badger. I’ve seen men & women alike be dismissive that way. I suppose one must be savy with his or her expressions of feelings and passion in the early stages. I have found letting someone know you enjoy them in a playful lighthearted way can make all the difference. However, as things progress, these types of expressions should too.

      Also, I don’t think any of us are immune to becoming distracted with life & not telling our partner how much they mean to us.


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